![]() We rarely show the moment our three-year-old decided to make a sandcastle in the cat’s litter box, or the time our six-year-old cut her sister’s hair. We photograph the joys in our life and the moments we want others to see. Yes, maybe there are a few Pinterest fail blogs (which are hilarious, by the way), but for the most part, our online personas are carefully cultivated to reflect the best of times. However, when it comes down to it, there aren’t a lot of people sharing their true struggles online. ![]() It can be hard not to feel like we’re missing out or like we’re not measuring up to standards. We see our friends sharing their workouts on Facebook and talking about how fantastic their lives are. We see her fabulous vacation and the amazing party she threw. Of course we look at the friend on Instagram and see how amazing and together her family pictures look. Comparing Yourself to Othersīetween social media and everything we do online, it can be next to impossible to stop comparing ourselves to those around us. Instead of constantly saying “I’m sorry,” let’s try to replace it with “pardon me” or “excuse me.” Or, better yet, eliminate it altogether, except in cases when a sorry is truly necessary. We’re trying to preempt their reaction by saying we’re sorry before they have a chance to say something we don’t like. “Sorry” becomes a way to tell others we think they’re being a jerk. When we apologize for meaningless things, sometimes we lose the meaning in truly saying we’re sorry when we do something that’s actually hurtful. At least “excuse me” or “pardon me” aren’t quite the tick that “sorry” becomes. Seriously: we need to stop apologizing for everything! Not only is it perfectly inoffensive that we have real biological reactions like sneezing and having to go to the bathroom, but also, “sorry” becomes a habit, so we say it when we don’t actually mean it. “I’m sorry, but I need to go to the bathroom.” “I’m sorry I bumped into you.” (…when really you bumped into me.) Balance doesn’t mean doing everything perfectly, it means giving yourself the grace to not be perfect.Īnd so I’m proposing that there are a few things we can and should stop doing immediately. ![]() There are only 24 hours in the day, which means that in order to excel in one area of our life, another area will almost inevitably suffer, at least a little bit. ![]() Oh, and we also need to look fabulous in a swimsuit!īut the truth is that none of us can do it all. We tell ourselves all we need to be happy is a clean house free of clutter an awesome and fulfilling career in a job we love a balanced budget and plenty of money in the bank kids who are happy, healthy, clean, smart, talented and smiling all the time a loving & passionate relationship with a spouse that makes our heart skip a beat every day an active social life with friends, family and loved ones who bring constant joy, and a deep spiritual connection that keeps us on the mountaintop all the time. As women, most of us deal with the constant internal pressure of feeling like we’re failing in one way or another. Sometimes I argue with my husband and yell at my kids, and feel like I’m barely hanging on.Īnd I don’t think I’m alone. Sometimes my friends or family members upset me and I don’t know how to handle it. I start my diet and exercise plan with resolve and then crash to a plate of brownies. I clean like crazy and feel like it’s not enough.
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